How To Effectively Heal Emotional Wounds

The psychologists offered advice.

Psychologists are increasingly noticing that emotional pain can linger for years, not because of the strength of the event experienced, but because of the way a person tries to make sense of it. New research and therapeutic approaches show that the key to healing is not in finding fault or endlessly analyzing other people's motives, writes Psychology Today (translated by Charter97.org).

Many people, faced with rejection, humiliation, betrayal, seek to explain what happened through the question "what's wrong with me?". This approach, according to experts, only perpetuates the pain. Emotional wounds are different from trauma: they are not directly related to the threat to life, but they undermine the sense of value, belonging and trust.

Experts note that such experiences often lead to the formation of internal "rules of defense": to open up less, not to wait for closeness, not to hope. These strategies seem reasonable, but in fact can keep the wound open, increasing wariness and distance in the relationship.

Healing begins with another question: "What exactly was wounded?" - A sense of significance, reciprocity, or security. It is important to separate the pain itself from conclusions about one's own identity. When the experience ceases to be part of identity ("there is something wrong with me") and becomes an experience that can be given space, there is room for recovery.

Psychologists emphasize that emotional wounds heal not when we finally understand why we were hurt, but when the pain finds meaning and becomes part of a personal story without defining it entirely. Taking care of our own needs, honest assessment of relationships, and compassion for ourselves prove more effective than any explanation from others.

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